She has been at the same barn for over a year. She has been in the wash rack every week for the last year, sometimes more often. The last two weeks, she has had her tail washed every day. She has been praised profusely when she stands still, she has had carrots in the wash rack. She has been tacked, untacked, groomed and fed treats in the wash rack. We have moved slowly from spraying water nearby, to hosing off feet. She has never had water sprayed in her face or ears (at least not with me...I can't say what her previous owners did). But her fear of the wash rack persists.
So is it trust? How can you build trust? I get that it takes time, but how MUCH time? Will she EVER trust me or will my lack of confidence erode any foundation we start to build. How can I set us up for situations where she will look to me as a leader, without accidentally setting us up for failure? I have read every natural horsemanship book out there and though I love them, sometimes it's hard to put in practice when you don't really know what you're doing or how to apply it to your particular situation.
With no trailer and no access to outside trainers (not allowed at our barn), I'm really starting to feel frustrated. Thanks for listening to me vent and for offering so many good ideas in the comments.
On a good note though, we did secure a trailer ride for August 25th to a nearby jumper barn where we will be having a jumping lesson at a new arena. Big day!!